Building Talking Skills
The basic building blocks of conversational skills are grammar and body language. Proper grammar ensures that sentences are properly constructed and words are grammatically correct. It improves your speaking skills, as well. Grammar is important, since it determines how you use language tenses. Pronunciation is also crucial, since correct pronunciation adds emphasis, effect, and impact to your message. In addition to the structure of sentences and words, proper pronunciation also includes rhythm and language sounds. Body language is just as important as the way you talk. If you want to communicate well with others, you must be aware of how you speak, and how others view you.
Listen more than you speak
People often want to know what you think. People who are in leadership positions should listen more than they speak. Listening can lead to better decisions and insights. Similarly, people appreciate you when you listen to them and are more likely to listen to you, as well. Although speaking often is important in a leadership role, if you can listen more than you speak, you will find that people will listen to you will have fewer complications working with others.
Respect others’ words and body language
One of the most important ways to respect someone else is by making sure they are at their level and using their body language appropriately. Many adults lower themselves to children and younger people to treat them as equals. By lowering yourself to the child’s level, you’ll open the child up and make them feel comfortable. The opposite can be true, however, as adults often shout at children and make them feel threatened.
Clarity, Articulation, and Tonality
There are several aspects of a speaker’s voice that affect the way they are heard and understood. Clarity is important in both business and personal settings. A speaker should be able to maintain articulation, inflection, and tempo when speaking in a variety of contexts. A speaker should be aware of the importance of a correct tempo as too slow or fast a speech can lead to difficulties in understanding the message.
Pre-talking and non-verbal communication skills
The first step in developing your child’s talking skills is to build their pre-talking and non-verbal communication. This includes observing your child’s non-verbal behaviors. Your body language, for example, affects how people hear what you say. In addition to using eye contact to convey your intention, smiling and demonstrating interest in what you’re saying can also make a huge difference in how others react.
Practice
If you want to improve your English speaking skills, there are several activities you can do to improve your listening and speaking skills. For example, you can watch a movie in your native language and follow along with the subtitles in English. Reading aloud also helps you practice speaking and pronunciation. Even if you’re not comfortable reading out loud, you can speak to yourself to hear how words are pronounced. You can also use videos with subtitles to improve your reading and speaking skills.
Books to read about talking skills
If you want to improve your speaking skills, you can start with a book about how to have a successful conversation. The Fine Art of Small Talk by Alan Garner and The Fine Art of Conversation by David Byron are excellent options. They both contain great advice on how to have successful small talk, such as techniques for avoiding awkward silences and starting conversations. However, these books tend to veer towards etiquette. Another great book to read about talking skills is People Skills, which is geared toward relationships.